Is Our Connectedness Causing Us to Disconnect?

There is no doubt that we are more connectedFacebook users, 191 million MySpace users and
today than at any time in our history. It is possiblemore than 29 million Friendster users in the world.
today to be connected to hundreds and evenAdd to that the millions of users on LinkedIn,
thousands of people at a time and to constantlyPlaxo, and all the other social networking sites and
keep everyone in our network up to date on ourit seems everyone is technology crazy these
activities. Today's technology makes it possible todays. It is also predicted that more than half the
never be out of touch. Yet, it seems the moreworld will have a cell phone by the end of 2009. It
technology enabled we become the moreseems that with so much connectedness going on
disconnected we are.it should be making our lives easier and allow for
Years ago if you wanted to keep in touch withgreat communication in our society.
someone you needed to make a telephone call orSo why is it that there seems to be so much
write to them one at a time. In order to makediscourse and miscommunication happening on a
that call you needed to be somewhere that youregular basis? Have we become a society that
could use a landline and if you didn't reach them,uses technology to avoid having meaningful
you may be able to leave a message if theydiscussions that allow for relationship building,
were fortunate enough to have an answeringsharing of ideas and reasonable debate that helps
machine. Your other choice was to actually writesolve problems instead of creating them?
a letter and put it in the mail. This was trueTechnology clearly has a place in our life these
whether you were contacting a family member,days and can be utilized in many ways to keep
friend or wanted to communicate something topeople informed and up to date. Businesses can
someone at work.find many effective and efficient ways to use
Then, along came the cell phone and all thetechnology to keep team members, customers,
sudden we could now talk to anyone, anytimevendors and others up to date more timely and
from anywhere (except those pesky deadeffectively than always making a phone call or
zones.) It was now possible to talk to your salesmailing a letter. The question is whether we can
agent while they are in the field, or reach thedevelop or maintain a relationship or manage
boss while they are out of the office to ask thatconflict and crises through Tweets, Wall Posts,
critical question that just couldn't wait until theyand texting.
got back to the office. We could also now stayEvery day I talk to and hear from people who
connected to the office from our car or in theseem to use technology as a way to avoid
evening or weekend and while on vacation withpersonal contact. I know people who wait until
the family. All the sudden we became connectedthey know someone will not be home or are
to the office with the cell phone as our umbilicalaway from the office to call so they can leave a
cord. Now there was no need to go anywheremessage and not have to talk to them. By
without having someone on the phone. I knowmaking the call, they can now check off their
people who pull out of their driveway dialing themental list that they have kept in touch. People
phone while backing out of the garage.respond to a voicemail with an email or text
Pretty soon, text messaging and instantmessage. The Tweet or Facebook Wall post
messaging offered the chance to say somethingkeeps everyone up to date so the guilt of feeling
without actually needing to have a conversation.like they should call or visit someone and talk to
We could control the conversation, reach morethem is removed.
people at a time, and say things we may not beTechnology makes it easy to tell people what you
willing to say if we had to hear the persons voicehave been up to, but don't let it replace personal
or actually see their face. Today, we all laughcontact to build and maintain relationships. We are
about our kids who text each other while theyat great risk with our youth in losing the ability to
are in the same room. Is it really funny though?do business and create lasting relationships other
Suddenly making a phone call and having athan through technology. Many more problems
conversation with a live human being becameare solved, ideas created and relationships
uncool and uncomfortable.strengthened through personal contact than
Now we can add to this our addiction to socialthrough the cold, impersonal, mass-distributed
networking. Twitter is the new rage. Nobodycontact of technology.
seems to know exactly how many Twitter usersGo ahead and send that Tweet, or make your
there are, but estimates are there are more thanWall post or send that text message, but also
one million active users who Tweet more thanmake some time to call someone you want to
three million messages a day. Now you can saykeep in touch with, care about or have an
something pithy in 140 characters or less tointerest in maintaining a strong relationship with.
anyone who is willing to read it. It suddenly isSet up a time for a cup of coffee together or to
possible to tell all our 'friends' what we had for'do lunch' or just spend five minutes letting them
lunch, what meeting we are heading to or howknow that you care. Businesses are built on
we feel at the moment. No need to engage instrong relationships; if you want to differentiate
discussion - you can share your feeling, thoughts,yourself in today's high tech world, pick up the
emotions, benign activities anytime of the day orphone or hand write a personal note. Don't let
night and 'communicate' anything you want.your connectedness cause you to disconnect.
In addition to Twitter, there are over 200 million